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Focus the Sales Conversation On Them, Or Keep Your Mouth Shut

Nancy Bleeke

Nancy Bleeke

Content Author

Published on: May 22, 2017

Productive sales conversations are the most important asset any sales rep owns.

Person-to-person sales conversations have not been replaced by software, technology, or “scripts.” They are more important than ever. Why? The volumes of information and choices for buying products and services has complicated buyer’s decision making. These buyers need professional sales pros who engage with them in a two-way conversation to guide and help them cut out the data and detail bogging down their confidence in making a decision.

To win with your sales conversations , skip the product pitch and focus all you say and do on them, the buyer. A focus on “What’s in it for Them” from the start to the end of the conversation allows the buyer to work through their buying process, which will always trump selling process. Tweet this.

The key to successful selling is to adjust your selling process and conversation to help the buyer through their buying process. How?

  • Ask prepared insightful questions followed by powerful paraphrasing and follow-up questions to clarify and confirm what they already know, use, and care about.
  • Listen (research shows the talk/listen ratio of 47/53 is ideal! ) and understand their “story” to earn the right to additional information.
  • Connect your product or service to their identified problem, opportunity, want, or need. It’ll take some work but it guarantees they make the connection.
  • Extract concerns or objections and work through them as a problem solver. No time to “handle” or “overcome” them, ask for clarity about the concern and discuss options, not discounts or concessions.
  • End every conversation with a specific “ask” for commitment or decision to what comes next. Make it easy for them to see what comes next and make that confident decision.

From the start to the end of every sales conversation, keep Them in focus, not your product pitch. And, if you can’t connect the information or your solution to What’s in it for Them, keep your mouth shut and first learn more about them or lose the sale.

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Nancy Bleeke

Content Author

Nancy Bleeke is the founder of Sales Pro Insider, where she helps relationship-driven professionals succeed in sales with her Genuine® training approach.

By focusing on productive conversations, proven systems, and accountability, she empowers clients to boost conversion rates, build confidence, and grow their businesses — all while staying authentic.

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